Strength differential: how to roll productively with men 30kg heavier

Most days I'm the smallest person on the mat. The bigger men either go too easy (and I learn nothing) or too hard (and I leak ego defending).

What works: explicitly tell your partner what you're working on. "I'm drilling guard retention, please pass like you mean it but submit me only if I'm fully caught." Most reasonable men will dial in to that.

What doesn't: being passive. They feel that, the rolls get weirder, you both leave frustrated.